Robert Stanley Hayes

We are profoundly saddened and heartbroken to announce the passing of Robert Hayes on Monday August 17, 2020, after a short illness. Robert is survived by his wife Kim, his 3 daughters, Tammy, Lexi and Stephanie, grandchildren Danielle, Shay, Quinlan, Aidan and Kaedmyn, great-grandchild Brooke, nieces and nephews, other family members, many, many friends/fellow writers and, of course, the dogs Daisy, Henry and Nanuq and the cat Aleena. He was predeceased by his parents.  He will be missed for his loving, gentle nature, his never-ending wit and humor, especially his puns, and his devotion to God.   

Robert was born on October 9, 1941 in Paddington, London, England during World War II.  They moved to Hayes, Middlesex when he was about 10 years old and as a young man joined a 5-year apprenticeship with a civil engineering firm.  From there he moved onto Twickenham College of Technology studying surveying and levelling which further led him to Canada. 

Once he landed in Canada in 1966, Bob joined Underwood-McClellan engineers after completing his apprenticeship.   He was a civil engineer doing structural bases for recreation centers.  He did have trouble adjusting to the Canadian winters and one particularly cold day he stayed home from work because, as he told his boss who later called him, “nobody goes out in this weather!”  His boss told him to “get his a** to work!”  So, he went and eventually became partially climatized, but never fully.  He did get tired of the first long winter and, in an effort to get away from it, he drove out to Grand Beach!  But he did say he got a great parking space!   

He started teaching math, science, and drafting at Red River College and still found time to write several applied math textbooks, and was instrumental in setting up Covenant Home for those with mental health issues. He retired from Red River in 1995 but did not stay retired for long. He joined Horizons for retraining and became a successful telephone solicitor because they loved his British accent.  His love of design led him to work at Revy designing bathroom and kitchens, working at Standard Aero and Loewen Windows.  He always loved writing and was a most beautiful poet.  He was the chairperson of the Canadian Authors Association Winnipeg Chapter and helped many, many writers with their work. 

As gifted as he was with words, he was equally talented with the non-sensical, and was well known for his catch phrases of: bogies greenie, big black Barcle, and his favourite – skim bams.

Bob was a very spiritual man.  He studied theology and was an elder in the Home Street Christian Church for a time until finding a home in the Charleswood United Church where he was happy to participate wherever he could.   Bob was a deep-thinking and feeling man whose faith was a massive influence in his life.

He was very intuitive and was helpful to many by reading palms and providing perspective.  He loved Christmas and played Santa Claus for the past 2 years.  With his own white beard, he was the most authentic Santa and even the adults loved him.  One time on the way home from playing Santa he was stopped by a train and got out of the car and walked along the line of stopped cars, handing out candy and wishing everyone a Merry Christmas and made everyone smile.

He was a beautiful soul and has influenced so many lives.  He will be missed by many forever.

“Love never fails.  But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away….And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.  But the greatest of these is love.

Thank you to the  St. Boniface Hospital employees on 5A Cardiology, who took excellent care of Robert after his heart attack on Father’s Day and went far above and beyond and through their perseverance found the pancreatic cancer that took him from us.  Thank you to the Palliative Care Program and Home Care staff who were wonderful in their care and for getting him home to spend his last days in the care of his family and friends who loved him so very much.

There will be a celebration of Robert’s life on Saturday, August 29, 2020, starting promptly at 2:00 at the Charleswood United Church at 4820 Roblin Blvd.  Social distancing measures will be observed with masks and hand sanitizer.

If people wish to honour Robert’s memory, donations can be made to CancerCare Manitoba Foundation, 675 McDermot Avenue, Room ON1160, Winnipeg, MB   R3E 0V9, or to a charity of their choice. 

Arrangements entrusted to Interlake Cremation & Memorial Services

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